B*stard Offspring of dot_cattiness

That's like the person who asks "So, a friend of mine wants to know..."

My bet is he considers himself one, does not find himself dripping with women, and wonders what he's doing wrong.

i think i'm confused as to why he- as an "as far from sexist asshat as you can get" kinda guy- is even deigning to give such a prerogative this amount of mental weight in the first place. especially since you point out it is a topic and perspective held by masculinists.

people are at the far end of being invested in feminist discourse and ideology wouldn't consider this to be a legitimate exercise in mental gymnastics to begin with for any number of psychological, social, biological, financial, etc etc reasons, not just feminist ones. it wouldn't matter what the international opinion is because it's a flawed argument in the first place. the only reason one would need to get confirmation internationally would be to validate a personally held opinion, otherwise it's so absurd that you certainly don't need to validate that internationally since you don't subscribe to it so it doesn't matter what the other kids at school think.

lack of sex is a masculinist issue

Wow, my ex needs to learn Finnish so he can hang out with those dudes. He once wrote an entire manifesto about the cosmic injustice of his inability to get laid.

*eyeroll*

I suggest you check the links on his LJ to stuff like h is recent article on evo psych being a bunch of baslls, to paraphrase. He's far less of an eejit than you'd think

I really am on my last nerve with people talking about "alpha" humans. Humans are not pack animals like wolves. And wolves have complicated social structures that do not, in fact, boil down to "alpha male wolf is king!"

But why didn't we read his entire oeuvre first! It's so unfair!

Starting to scan through that thread, until I got bored, it seems to be missing two important points:

Not everyone wants the same amount of time from a partner. One of the significant benefits one of my partners gets from me being poly is me spending less time with him, but still being okay with the relationship with him. He likes a lot of time for himself. There's nothing wrong with that, and I like a lot of time for myself too, but not to the same extent he does. So, he actively benefits from having less of me.

Not everyone should be in a relationship. An ideal system doesn't match everyone up. It allows relationship opportunities for the people able to handle being in relationships. But it's actively better if the "bottom tier" by some definitions isn't able to find anyone, if the people in the bottom are less desirable because they are abusive or otherwise dangerous to be with or simply are not yet/currently ready to be in a relationship. It is better to be single than to be with someone really bad. But it's even better to be with someone it works out well with (for most people). So, a system that forces the least desirable people to be single isn't necessarily a bad one, if the least desirable people are actually not desirable for very good reasons.

Well luckily, a critical mass doesn't agree with you and we can all participate in this rollicking thread.

And people say LJ is dead...

No worries yet...still has quite a bit more to go before it catches up with sweet potato dog!